When We All Grow Up

adults2Every major change in life — and probably a lot of the minor ones — is accompanied by something I call Turbulence.

New job, turbulence. New baby, turbulence. Loss of a loved one, MAJOR turbulence.

It’s that period of discomfort and confusion that happens between one steady life state and another. Eventually you get used to new conditions of life — the new job is as familiar and comfortable as the old one — but meanwhile, you suffer the bumpy ride of the necessary transition.

I bring up Turbulence because I think we’re in it, society-wide, worldwide, right now. I suppose the people of every era feel their discomforts, but this one is a one-of-a-kind, first-ever-in-history discomfort, the sign of a BIG transition.

I’m thinking about Humanity on Planet Earth, and the changes in store for us, major ones, some of which are already taking place. What will be the end result of those changes? Where are we going?

Up til now it’s like we’ve been living through the human species’ childhood, where we could explore and play and fight and kill and burn and break and do pretty much anything we pleased, without any very serious repercussions. We could reproduce without limit, experiment with weird beliefs, exotic ways of living, silly fantastic ideas, and see what happened. All the while, we were rich enough in room and resources that our failures made only local differences. We could try out this thing and that thing and the other thing, and no matter how much we broke or burned, we could just walk away from the wreckage and try something new.

But there’s that time to come when we won’t be doing that stuff anymore. The time when we will practice restraint and finally become grownups, comfortable with ourselves and with life on Earth, living more or less gracefully and successfully, into the indefinite future.

I don’t say we’re GOING to make it. But if we do, it will be because we did this other thing, and so became able to survive. It’s like our doctor has said “Your heart is laboring, your liver is shot, your cholesterol if through the roof and your diabetes is getting worse. You’re going to lose 100 pounds or you’re going to die in a matter of months. There is no third choice.”

In the only good future imaginable, in the single survivable scenario, we change. Non-change, or half-assed change, will bring either extinction or something few of us today would want to live through.

The in-between time, the turbulence-riddled NOW, is our teen years. We’re still experimenting, playing and fighting and stumbling and living our rich fantasy lives, but with global warming, Peak Oil, so many other real-life realities being forced upon us, we’re discovering we can’t do just anything. Not forever. We’re finding out some things have uncomfortable, even deadly, results, both to ourselves and to the planet. We’re living in the midst of the transition from carefree childhood to … something.

I’m thinking about that “something” — the full adulthood of humanity, hanging out there in some hopefully not-too-distant future.

What will things be like when the human species is all grown up? What will be necessary? What will be necessarily avoided? How will we live? How will we relate to Planet Earth, and each other?

Humanity’s adulthood is a way off, sadly, and none of us will live to see it. It’s going to require generational changes; more than a few generations will be necessary before a critical mass of grownups appears on the world scene. The lot of us are unfortunately stuck back here in adolescence.

Doesn’t mean we can’t speculate. The fine details of that era are impossible to guess at — there will be arts and careers, entertainments, technology, unimaginable to us today — but I think we can predict something of the bigger picture, because some conclusions are pretty much unavoidable.

There’s a lot of stuff we simply can’t afford, or afford to do, anymore. For instance, we won’t be using fossil fuels in that future, because most of them will just be gone. Used up by we human children in a burning, partying, indulgent spree.

And some things, we just have to hope will be a part of the picture, because otherwise, that future won’t be anything those of us today could enjoy.

So here are some of my guesses about what it will mean for us to be sane and successful grownups on Planet Earth.

Population and Energy

First, like I said, we’re going to give up petroleum, and maybe even nuclear energy. Solar’s the way to go. Everything in our adult future will be powered by the sun.

Or yes, some “might be” futury energy source. But having gotten to 2016 with no sign of widely-available flying cars, which I’ve been reading about since the 1950s, I’m not counting on the rescue of out-of-the-blue science-fictiony solutions. I’d love to see fusion power perfected, but a question I’ve asked myself over the years is: What if it’s just not possible? What if it takes an actual star to keep a fusion reaction going? I’d like to see the research continue, but I don’t think it’s something we can count on.

There are going to be a lot fewer of us. Idiot optimists notwithstanding, Planet Earth just can’t support 7 or 8 or 12 billion humans. My guess is that somewhat less than a billion humans, maybe only a few hundred million, can live on the planet without eventually eating it down to bedrock. And why would we want more? If there are resources enough to allow 500 million people to live like royalty, or 12 billion people to live like slaves, cramped and poor, what good argument is there for NOT living comfortably within our means?

The question for me — and I think grownups in the human future — isn’t “Do people have the right to have as many kids as they want?”, it’s “Do children have the right to be born into a family, or a world, that can support them?” Note that I’m not saying some draconian governmental edict will come along and nix human population growth. I’m saying the real world will enforce some sort of solution, either voluntary on the part of Homo Adultus, or involuntary via any of a number of mass die-off scenarios.

There will be fewer of us.  How we get there is up to conscious decisions by us might-be grownups, or due to the already-in-progress default course set by the equivalent of idiot teenagers refusing to accept responsibility in a world of real consequences.

Education and Equality

We have to have full equality of every human, everywhere on the planet. Everyone has to have the right to vote, to medical care, to an education.

Speaking of education, we’re going to stop treating our kids like they’re children, and start treating them as if they’re going to be fellow adults expected to shoulder the load of making the world work. We’re going to give every one of them a full, free education — which we will expect them to actually work at and benefit from — up to and including college or trade school.

Speaking of medical care, we’re going to live a lot longer than we do now. Think about it: What’s the real goal of the field of medicine? To cure everything. Pretty much every disease is going down, and life extension will become a major focus of research. Because what is aging but just another disease? The end result of that research is going to BE life extension. How much? I like to think it would be well into the hundred-and-somethings.


We’re going to learn to live on Planet Earth without damaging it. Our smaller population will allow us to abandon large areas and allow them to go back to nature. We’ll have a reverence for life, with absolute protection of endangered species with no regard to national borders. Those mountain gorillas, for instance, are not Africa’s mountain gorillas, they’re everybody’s (and nobody’s) mountain gorillas, and we’ll feel they must be protected no matter what.


We’re going to stop tolerating lies. One of the things we haven’t yet understood is that Freedom of Speech has to have this other freedom attached to it, Freedom From Lies. Every person (and corporation) has the right to say whatever they want to say, but that freedom is limited by every OTHER person’s right to hear the truth.

I can lie to you in person and you and I will deal with that privately, but on public airwaves or wires, where millions might hear and be adversely affected by it, there can be no “right” to lie, to incite others to believe falsehoods, and the penalties will be severe.

Lying is a form of pollution, when you think about it. Lies are a poison that destroys human understanding of the truth. It’s like secondhand smoke — when the lies flow over your metaphorical property line and into my life, your right to lie has ended.

(In my view, there is already no right to lie to a child, about any subject or for any reason.)

We’re going to have a common language. English? Probably. Doesn’t mean all the others will go away. Does mean we’re going to talk to each other, all over Earth, in this common language.

We’re going to have a LOT more public transportation, a lot fewer cars. We’re going to spend a LOT less money on wars and weapons.

We’re going to end racism and sexism. Skin color is about the stupidest, most superficial way of judging people, and we — all of us — will eventually realize that. As to sexism, we’ll eliminate the prejudices and limitations based on gender, but we’re also going to accept that men and women each have their own specific needs, and figure that more into the balance.

Our lives are going to be a lot more transparent, but we’re also going to become a lot more comfortable with our own nature and the inevitable foibles which attend it.

We’re going to come to understand that not all cultures and cultural practices are equal. That some are good for human freedom and dignity, some are simply not, and we’re going to abandon the not-goods. Speaking of which:


We’re going to do away with religion and mysticism. Goodbye Islam — don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. But also: Goodbye Christianity — don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. Schools will teach evolution with gusto, and every kid will grow up knowing he’s connected as family to all life on Earth. The idea of the universe being poofed into existence by a great big guy in the sky is going to seem like a fairy tale straight out of the Dark Ages.

We’re going to end genital mutilation of babies. Sorry Jews and Muslims, snip off the end of your own dick if you want, cut out your own clitoris once you’ve achieved the age of choice, but you can’t do that to kids anymore. They don’t BELONG to you, they belong to the adults they will one day become, and it’s that adult — and only that adult — who has the right to choose to make permanent changes to their bodies. You would no more cut healthy body parts off a baby than you would install garish permanent tattoos on their bodies. In both cases, it’s a trespass on THEIR right to choose.

We’re going to stop being ouchy about sex education for young people. Every kid on Earth is going to receive the full, unaltered Handbook of the Human Body in classes taught from kindergarten onward.

Business and Politics

We’re going to push corporations out of the driver’s seat of government. We’re going to end tax evasion by corporations and the wealthy, and the huge income inequality that flows out of corporate culture. In the coming era of transparency — particularly in international banking — I suspect most organized crime is going to go away.

Science and Technology

We’re going to use space, but probably not move into it. The minimum necessary life support system for humans is probably the size of a planet, and we only know of one. We’ll have robots out there, or humans for short periods, but we’re never going to have humans like you and I living on other planets.

Every person on Earth is going to have full, unfettered access to the Internet, and they will carry it around with them.

It’s almost inevitable that we’ll tinker with our own genes, improving ourselves in countless ways and ushering in an age of transhumanism. Not everyone will change, but everyone will have the chance. Overall, average intelligence is going to go up — we’re going to be a lot smarter.

Speaking of intelligence, we’re going to have Artificial Intelligence. It’s not going to be just like us, but one way or another it’s going to exist. It’s also going to be friendly, an intellectual partner rather than some horror-story master or adversary.


I doubt that nations will go away. Local units of government are better at handling local issues. But a worldwide community of individuals — and yes, I’m thinking Beta Culture — who agree that certain things must happen can make those things happen. Not by undercutting government, but by convincing a critical mass of people in each country that certain things — women’s equality, for instance, but also all this other stuff — absolutely must happen.

Here’s hoping.

  • Ol’ Hippy

    Wonderful essay, Hank. We humans indeed are facing some tough choices and soon too. In an ever expanding population we are entering a period of unrestrained unsustainable growth. If we don’t solve this first the other problems become moot points. If left unrestrained, the population of the species outstrips resources and collapses. Sometimes past the point of no return, humans will face this and soon by all indications. The big question remains; can mankind put a halt on this drive for unlimited growth before extinction? Can the capitalist drive for dominance be overcome in time to save most of the other really cool animal species including humans? I don’t have any children so I don’t have a personal stake on Earth but I think the Earth is a really, really, a great place to live. I think humans can be good enough to be worth saving but as Hank says; “it’s time to grow up”, and soon too if the information I research is an accurate assessment. [(robertscribbler.com) has links to good sincere climate information.] I think we can save the world for future generations of humans but it will demand serious concessions on all fronts to survive and time is growing short or nature will do what humans can’t and reset things to start over again, just this time without humans.

  • Scooter

    You’ve tackled a number of issues in his report. I agree that there are changes in store for our planet. I’m reminded of the occasion of a Christmas eve address given to the British Commonwealth by King George VI in Buckingham Palace in London. His closing quotation, during those difficult days for Britain following WW 2 is something that we could well pay attention to.
    “I said to the man at the Gate of the Year, “Give me a light that I may walk safely into the unknown.”
    ” He said to me, “Go out into the darkness, and put your hand in the hand of God, and it shall be to you better than the light, and safer than the known.”

    As he spoke, his listeners were unaware that the king was dying of cancer. These words were to become an anchor in his own time of need. But Hank my thinking is that from individual need to international struggle, the only hope that makes sense and is legitimate is the hope that comes from God, the hope for life and beyond death. You say that we should get rid of Christianity and have no religion and ” every kid will grow up knowing he’s connected as family to all life on Earth.” But what you are actually promoting is another religion -pantheism.
    I’m also reminded of a couple of other books while reading your essay-“Brave New World” and “1984” which present a chilling picture of the future.

  • AngularAngel

    I talked to you a bit ago about putting together the whole book of good living in Github, and I was thinking I might just go ahead and launch my own version. are you in the process of putting something together, or should I just go ahead?

  • Lucy

    The irony is, I suspect that the ancestral Native Americans were already sort of a version of that “grown up” culture (or rather, cultures; there were hundreds of them; even though many tribes were completely eliminated and others, decimated; I am not sure how many are left, but my guess is that there are still quite a few left). After all, there is evidence that some of their ancestors drove some species to extinction during the Ice Age, and one of the big parts of the philosophies of Native American cultures that continue to this day is a respect for a connection to nature and a respect for the lives of the animals that are taken. The reason I believe that this sort of “environmental growing up” is what happened to both Native Americans and Canadian Aboriginals is because their very distant ancestors drove certain species to extinction during the Ice Age, there were no smaller species they saw that were similar to those species to give the false impression that those species were merely shrinking rather than dying off (which I suspect happened in Europe and Asia, as certain mythologies and myth-based stories like Lord of the Rings and Princess Mononoke suggest), and there weren’t other species to blame it on. Those ancestors, who were likely egalitarian and likely had no ironclad power structures to get in the way of this change, probably saw the damage they did, learned from it, and the resulting actions led to the specific “respect nature” philosophies among Native Americans today. This seems especially likely as African tribes, who live on a much bigger continent, have a much bigger range of species to be exposed to, and live in a place where those species can have a much wider range and are harder to drive to extinction do not have the same kind of philosophy; the Maasai, for instance, have only recently begun to scale back on killing lions, and the same is true for other African peoples (tribal or not) and endangered species.
    Nevertheless, you might want to be careful describing it as “childhood” versus “growing up”; some cultures may take that as offensive. The Maasai are not children, and neither are the many other cultures in Africa. There would be good reason for them to get offended by this; after all, racists have often essentially described Africans as children as an excuse for pushing them around and decimating them. And as for Native Americans, I in no way intend to suggest that the ancestors that killed mammoths were “children”, either, nor do I intend to say that all Native Americans were in the past, which I know is a common implication people receive. It is not the Native Americans who were in the past, but rather the lifestyles that many of them don’t or cannot completely lead, just as surely as frontierspeople and homesteaders were in the past but white Americans are not. However, I also understand that, unlike with pioneers, Native Americans did not choose to give up those lifestyles; rather, they were forced to, often mistreated in much the same way as many special needs kids are today because their culture was essentially viewed as a pathological condition and now try to hold on to as much as they can. I don’t know the extent to which this treatment of Native Americans continues today, but I know that to some extent, it still does. And I bet that goes double if they are both Native American and special needs.

    In other words, I believe that there is not one big “growing up” but rather that this so-called “growing up” is actually a pattern of what happens when sudden environmental disaster strikes, as has happened more than once in human history. Furthermore, it is ethnocentric and potentially not considerate of racial struggles to say that “growing up” is what it is, as there are often reasons like survival for doing environmentally unsound things. A better way to describe this would be “decolonization” of our attitudes to the environment, not “growing up”. I should also add that disabled people are often already viewed as burdens and adding the implication that they are burdens to the environment based on that is insensitive. Yes, the human population could do with being less prolific. However, if it is reduced through things like eugenics and eliminating disabled people, we are not solving the root of our problem with the environment, which is a superior and colonialistic attitude towards natural things. Speaking of which, ableism, or prejudiced against the disabled, is something that I firmly believe influences us only to care about saving certain species; let me tell you, I appreciate sloths a lot more now that I have shed much of my internalized ableism.

    And no, not everyone can go vegan, in case you’re wondering; some people need animal products or can’t eat vegan substitutes due to allergies or other disability-related issues (executive dysfunction is a big one; it can prevent you from doing it right), or else because of poverty – while meat is not exactly cheap, the often highly specific foods or groups of foods, as well as supplements, required for an even somewhat healthy vegan diet can be significantly more expensive. And even if a person can go vegan, it doesn’t mean their pet can thrive on it. I think improving tank meat and making it affordable might help with this; however, it may not be possible, and while we do need to eat less meat, we may need meat alternatives that are sustainable like bugs and certain fish; on paper, we don’t look like we need animal products, but there may be other factors not accounted for that mean most of us do need them, at least a little of them, even if there are actually people who don’t need them; people who can thrive vegan may not be representative of the whole human population. Keep in mind that there is a lot of shame within vegan culture for being ex-vegan, and people who have complications that cannot be solved simply by following the suggestions given may find themselves unable to say so, as hardcore vegans will simply insist that they weren’t doing it right. Mind you, I know that not all vegans do this (the gal who plays Luna Lovegood is a good example, because she respects other people’s decisions to eat meat and champions animal welfare); with the term “vegan culture” I am referring specifically to a loud-voiced segment of vegans who believe everyone can go vegan, often including dogs and cats. And they will insist those pets are healthy and excited about dinner even if they look otherwise. I saw a picture of one of those dogs once; the vegan insisted the dog was excited, but given dinner (sweet potato and brown rice casserole) was right in front of the dog, I saw a shockingly forlorn expression on his face (most dogs practically jump up and down with excitement when they see dinner coming, even when that dinner is dog kibble, so that forlorn expression is really striking), and the dog also looked drawn and had gray hairs around his nose. Other people pointed out other health problems, but I forget what they are. It would be nice if we could avoid killing or harming living creatures to eat in a manner both sustainable and workable to the entire human population, but we can’t. The best we can do, as a species, is to preserve as many species as we can and be respectful both of the lives that we and other non-herbivores must take, and the ones we don’t. And yes, that is also why the Native American philosophy of respecting the creatures you hunt is something that I agree with and I believe can be adapted and applied in a secular manner, both to farming and hunting. Of course, copying the exact Native American prayers if you aren’t Native would be cultural appropriation, but I don’t believe it is appropriative to adopt some of the basic morals behind that kind of philosophy; if we had adopted that from the get-go, I don’t believe the Native Americans would have been decimated in the first place; a respect for life like was encouraged in those philosophies, genuinely applied, would have prevented such genocide from happening.

    • Lucy

      Of course, people can choose to go vegan if they want to, and that’s fine with me. Personally choosing to go vegan is not the same thing as pushing to make it normative; even if a vegan suffers adverse effects as a result of that choice because they feel personally morally icky for eating animal products but can’t get it right, the only person they are risking is themselves. If you are a vegan who is willing to not look down on people who eat meat but make that choice anyway, and you simply feel on a personal level like you don’t want to be killing animals and want to talk about it, you are not the kind of person I am referring to. But if you are the type who lectures meat-eaters on the dangers of eating meat and say it is because vegans are in the minority, so what’s the big deal, keep in mind that vegans are a fairly privileged minority, who often have the ability, the means, and the wherewithal to make such changes; given that position, and the changes happening to the Earth, they may be in a position someday to normalize veganism, to the point that people whose disabilities and conditions prevent them from going vegan could be in serious danger.